I haven't read this entire thread, but I can't help but say something... and this is definitely IMHO..
The reason I came to this website is because I didn't want my kids to be a product of a divorced family. I wanted to stop my divorce because I believe in family.
Have I found positives, heck yeah, but don't lose sight of the fact that divorce is hard on families either....
It really can be both answers. By knowing the factors and the issues surrounding busted families, I would hope that WE could figure out how to divert some of those problems.
But overall, the problem still exists.
My kids did miss out on being proud of their dad. It is HIS fault and definitely a result of our divorce. It doesn't mean they didn't see their mom be stronger, but it is something they didn't get.
Even though we survive and THRIVE, we don't have to say that divorce is good....or at least, that's why I joined way back when...
Everything is different, when they graduate, marriage, grandkids.. .different then I would have hoped for, but, in the end... it's life and will be fine because we can make it fine.
