Phil, I know, I'm not supposed to post to you, so I'll be quick!
KS is onto something I tried to point out earlier, when you were listening a lot less. In almost every one of your interactions you have with W (at least that we read here), you "tell" he something about what she should do. Right now, that is not working. In fact, it is making things worse. She is going to react like a child, if you tell her she should do something, she will probably do as close to the opposite as possible. And the more you "tell" her, the farther she will run. The point isn't whether you are right, it is whether she is ready to listen.
