First of all, your 8yr old daughter does NOT get to dictate the decision to go out to eat as a family. She may not like it, but it's not her decision to make. If your w is letting the 8yr old make decisions, then daddy may never come home, and we all get to eat ice cream and twinkies for breakfast. See what I'm saying? Kids don't understand that in order for things to move forward it's going to take everyone doing things they may not like to do. The outcome is worth the pain, but a child cannot see that. And, it's SO important to see that it can happen without arguing or any other petty BS that they may be used to seeing. If they can see a happy family simply enjoying dinner, they'd be more inclined to want to do more of that.
Spending time as a family is what will lead to spending time together. Show your wife that you will not go into r talks when you are together. Show her how happy and upbeat you can be, and don't put any pressure on her.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
