Really good stuff. When I get frustrated by rejection or lack of enthusiasm for ml, even when I try to pretend it doesn't bother me (usually by not saying anything) my wife notices and "can't believe what a baby I am being" which, of course, makes it go from bad to worse. After reading your post, I think that is because my tapes (or hard-drive for the Gen Ys out there) is full of negativity that was already there. This makes a lot of sense because when I look back at the beginning of our relationship, a request of "not tonight, but we will do it tomorrow" didn't bring the negativity and cynicism that it does today, that had to be earned.
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"