This will get better. She just isn't very stable right now. Keep validating and being the great person you are. Even if it feels fake, keep doing the family things. That is acting as if. When she needs to withdraw then you let her.

I know it hurts.

Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08,
S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012!
Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.