I'm not sure I understand her shock. Does she think shy men don't go to strip clubs? Or guys who aren't smooth at dealing with women? Why does she think these places exist in the first place?
Personally, I visited the local place a couple of times and just found it deeply awkward. I haven't been back in years. But I can easily see how a man could reach the point where it seemed like a good idea. A stripper keeps her judgments to herself. She doesn't tell you that you aren't good enough, she doesn't complain about you, and she doesn't nag you. She is not disappointed with the way you look or the way you dress (well, she does not express disappointment.) She isn't testing you. The exchange is clear; you give her this much money, and she does X, Y and Z for you. It's not particularly satisfying, but it's not fake. She can't be pretending to be in love with you, because she doesn't claim to be. She isn't trying to fool you or shame you or make you feel guilty.
Of course, she's not doing any of that because she doesn't care. You're nothing to her. But how many men are there who suspect that they're nothing to ANY women, especially their wives? For them and from their point of view, being nothing to a stripper is just like being nothing to your neighbor or your wife, except that the stripper doesn't have to lie about it.
