Do we ever become the best we can be? Since the evil one is always trying to destroy our spiritual relationship, I didn't think we ever become the best we can be. That just my humble opinion based on sermons and scripture. I feel as if it is a never ending battle that is easier some times than others.
As for forgiveness, I have mostly forgiven my H, there are a few things that have to do with insensitivity toward our sons that continue to tick me off but overall I have already forgiven him. Someone on here posted the question, would we hold it against our spouse if they had a brain tumor that was causing their behavior and that MLC is chemical as well as emotional illness. As for me, we are taught that we should forgive everyone around us...it is not our job to judge. I try very hard not to judge, it is a struggle for me and was a big part of my upbringing as my mother was very judgmental. Probably why I rail(sp) at feeling as if I am judged.
With regards to calling either of you mean and a know-it-all, this was not my intent...although I am well aware of saying that you were coming across as a know-it-all with no room for other opinions. I will apologize for that because I do not believe you are mean-spirited. However, I do wish you would try to see another perspective and not always behave in a manner that your way is the only way. And IMP I cannot see myself coming back and thanking you for the feeling of being put down. Because in my case and I stop listening or trying to understand someone's views when I feel put down.
Although I thought this was a good question also, I don't like the way this interchange has made me feel and I don't think I will be posting on this thread again. I am sure that doesn't bother IMP or Happy because I sense little respect for me anyway. But I will thank you Happy for giving me the opportunity to reflect on how far I have come and because it does help me get less discouraged about the work I still need to do.
Back on the topic of forgiveness. I truly and honestly struggle the most at forgiving OW because for many years she pretended to be my friend. So part of my prayer time at least once or twice a week is asking for help in forgiving OW.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
