Three small, doable in the next 2 weeks action-oriented and positively stated relationship goals:
1. To be able to smile and say hello when he comes home without having to go up and give him a hug or kiss. (Giving him space)
2. To be able to read when he wants to be close or when he wants to have space, and to be able to divert myself into some other activity without reacting badly at those times.
3. To be calm and consistent, without reacting, for the two weeks. ( I realize to make this goal I start with the next few minutes and then the next hour, then the day, etc.)
Those are great things to do.....but if you were getting the results you wanted with those actions....how would you KNOW?
What would be the first sign?
The statement should read something like.....
He will ask me how my day is.. He will take me on a date... He'll buy me a boat (ok...a bunch of flowers)
the idea is.....the things you WANT MORE OF.....not things YOU WILL DO
(btw....going up and giving him a hug or a kiss is a great thing many guys wish their wives would do....it may be something that ISN'T BROKEN...so don't FIX it. Just....AFTER the HUG or KISS.....back off.....let him go do whatever he wants)
Your action list is GOOD....they wll probably help you achieve what you want......just be sure you know what you want.
SO follow up with the list of 3 THINGS YOU WANT MORE OF
Last edited by sgctxok; 07/30/0806:02 PM.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
