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Originally Posted By: LolaL
If I could name all the stupid things I have done while drunk...


ditto, but i don't drink anymore

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I do...but rarely. Like maybe 2-3 times a year. And then only one or two.


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when someone says they are using a word lightly .. what exactly does that mean..

example: i am going out on a "date" and i use that term lightly..

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It kinda means the person isn't sure of the right word choice. Perhaps that they are not sure the term really fits or that it is being called that by someone else, and socially they feel like they should use the term, but they're not sure it really is accurate. Sometimes people use it because they are uncomfortable with the social implications.


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Originally Posted By: MichelleLT
It kinda means the person isn't sure of the right word choice. Perhaps that they are not sure the term really fits or that it is being called that by someone else, and socially they feel like they should use the term, but they're not sure it really is accurate. Sometimes people use it because they are uncomfortable with the social implications.


Thanks very much, this is what W described as where she was going to a friend ..

She said I am going on a coffee "date" and i use that term lightly, don't tell H as I want to keep the peace..

what's your take on that?

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Hmmm....
To start, don't make too much of it. I think that she was saying that she wasnt' even sure she'd call it a "date". But that at least to some degree it would look like a date.

More interesting, I think, is that she still wants to keep the peace. That doesn't sound like someone that is done, to me.

Ok, the other interesting thing. She asked her friend not to tell you, but her friend did. So, make sure you don't trust this friend with anything you don't want W to know, either! There's a good chance it works both ways.

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Kudo's to Jeff...I couldn't have said it better. She is meeting up with someone, but it is probably just a "friend" thing.


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Hmmm....
To start, don't make too much of it. I think that she was saying that she wasnt' even sure she'd call it a "date". But that at least to some degree it would look like a date.

More interesting, I think, is that she still wants to keep the peace. That doesn't sound like someone that is done, to me.

Ok, the other interesting thing. She asked her friend not to tell you, but her friend did. So, make sure you don't trust this friend with anything you don't want W to know, either! There's a good chance it works both ways.


So maybe everything i made out of last night was nothing but mere paranoia.. so I am insane! LOL

Yes she has always stated she wants to keep the peace.. why would that not sound like she is done? What's your take? I know everyone says if she was done she'd be gone.. and she really does not try to pull me into arguments anymore.. but.. she does show signs of anger with me..

Yeah the friend that i never even talked to when we were "together".. W didn't want her to call the house at that time asking for her etc.. but she wiould never call before, it was almost like she was bragging she had a "date"

yes the only one I truly trust on her side is her cousin.. who has Promised she doesn't say anything.. i told her if she did our friendship would have to end. This cousin told W that she emails me alot and W apparantly was not happy.. but no info was told


PS By this time she has likely read the email.. as she is getting ready for work as we speak.. her exzema is really bad.. and she said last night she is not sleeping at all..

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Originally Posted By: LolaL
Kudo's to Jeff...I couldn't have said it better. She is meeting up with someone, but it is probably just a "friend" thing.


she met this "friend" on a dating site, maybe it didnt go well..i wont drive myself batty thinking about it tho..

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Don't...it will only make things worse. Trust me.


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