Oldtimers: Return or not..what finally happened?

[Sanderika]

Hi JMC,

Thank you for the comments.

I am probably going to be one of those that doesn't reconcile, my odds get worse every day. 6-18% chance is not good.

After 35.5 months of separation without any filing, I feel that there is reason to still be hopeful. Add our friendship and sex life and it adds up to more hope. Our sex life has been fairly steady for the past 31.5 months.

We have not been together now though sexually since 7/11/08 and I am very fearful OW is working him over very steadily now to file. A friend told me just stay in the back seat. Let OW nag and control and rant and rave and nag some more....H will not put up with it. When H comes around continue to be friendly, respectful and loving. Let him know the door is still open. Use actions in front of him as proof and not R talks. He is sick to death of R talks right now most likely. Men react to action and not to emotion.

Again I am probably spinning my wheels. My car is running out of gas. OW is going to fight and fight some more before she goes down.

I personally know of several marriages that reconciled and at least 2 that D and then remarried. I have to admit I might be making a time record for separation though in the ones here I know about. I do actually find several posters on the BB that have reconciled and some long timers are showin promise now after 3-5 years apart.

I live with hope but no expectations.

Sanderika