but if a H looks at is as "getthing any tonight" I think he is either very crude or he simply wants the sex act and he is not thinking about the intimacy. that's exactly what he says... for example "looks like i'm not getting any tonight" those are the exact words... that's how it's always been. I'm used to it. There has never been a whole lot of intimacy. We don't talk about it or anything. Unless he just wants to do it while you sleep.....lol. i don't think it much matters to him as he's actually done this. I thought it was the generation my H was in that grew up seeing their mothers do all the homemaking stuff while the man came home and his work was finished, but apparently, some parent fell down on their job of teaching your H what his responsibilities arei can't blame him for who he became... His childhood was lousy. Both is parents did drugs and his dad drank too. With his dad, they moved all the time and lived in the car from time to time too. His mom had a revolving door of men when he was little. When he turned 16 and ran away to live with his mom, she became the mom she should have been when he was a little boy: doing all his laundry, cooking his dinner, etc... Once we moved in together, i took over. I just wanted to be a good girlfriend/wife like my mom showed me. I worked 2 jobs and did almost everything, but it's different once you have kids, i need help. I have to stop enabling him to stay the same... Anyways, i'm done "making excuses" for him as people say i do...
thanks again!! ann
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