Tmite, I'm well aware of the verbal and physical intimacy issues in the M. My efforts at a dance and financial partnership are to create a foundation for intimacy to occur.
It's difficult to feel sexual towards my W when there has been great distance in the M until recently. It's difficult to feel sexual towards my W when the sleeping elsewhere continues. Even so, the feelings wax and wane.
I don't think we can just leap into intimacy and sexuality. That's why they call this Piecing. We have to be in a position to partner on the sexual issue as well.
We have to reinvent the M. I think our budding dance partnership holds great promise.
Since you say that I'm being passive, I will consider your comments. It's interesting that you raise the passivity issue at this time. I just finished a poem on habits (see my signature line), and have been thinking about making choices versus habits.
I see myself breaking old patterns (internal and external) all the time. I deserve more credit than your giving here. As I said, I will pay attention to if I'm falling into old passive or passive-aggressive patterns.
I will try to counter my feelings of frustration and disappointment and continue to sleep with my W when she sleeps at home. Asking me to feel close and sexual towards her also, is too much to ask.
CL
Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 07/30/0804:46 PM.
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
