Hi Fran, thanks for the summary. It DOES help.

Gosh, the similarities in some of our personalities and issues is a little freaky sometimes!

Yet at the same time it offers a great opportunity to learn what others are doing that works!

Your feelings of dissatisfaction with your H at this point are very common. LOTS if not all, of us have looked at what we fought (and are working) so hard for and thought...I'm doing this all for HIM?

But those feelings come and go, crop up less and less as BOTH spouses start to work on the R.

That's the problem for your right now, you feel like you're paddling the boat alone. We've all been there and it's tiring!!!

So how do you get your overly sensitive to criticism guy to start pulling his weight in this R. HAVE you suggested any reading?

I tend to think, since he is so sensitive to criticism, that the 5 love languages might be a good start because it has the reader not only thinking of their lover's needs but their own as well.

It might just provide the launching pad you need to get this peicing going!

Shiny