I loved NG and butterfly mom's analogies of the lighthouse. That's a powerful image and one that can only help.
I had the same thought as Upside:
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Do you think if your H watched the kids somewhere else, it would help you detach more?
Now that he's officially told you that he wants a D, having him take the kids at pre-arranged times may help him see how a D would work if he goes through with it. Do you want him to continue to pop in to your house whenever he wants to?
I'm thinking of you and hope you're doing better and better each day.
