losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

I like this Chris.

You sound very even at the moment. Your taking care of the businees at hand and it appears things are in a very good place for you. Take care of those kids as it seems your W has WA from them also.

Very, very good. I'm impressed.

Thanks Mike. The conversation last night resulted in no anxiety on my part which has helped today. Business end is moving along nicely and trying to keep the stuff at home running as smooth and non-confrontational as possible. I am getting better at detaching from her and keeping the business end separated from what is happening at home.

I also realized late last night that my anxiety is also being driven by the fear of how my W might be devestated if things go to the hearing and is confronted with everything. This is based on me being kind of worried that her L might delay and force the issue at the hearing and run my W into something that is not in her favor but that is their choice not mine. I just want this to be as non-confrontational and smooth as possible so there are no hard or hurt feelings. But like DR says, I can ony control what is mine. Now that I know this, it will be easier to deal with.

Well, off to pick up birthday treats for 4Ds daycare class tomorrow and sign some docs. I'll post a tad more when I get back.

Chris