I just posted on 7Year's thread. H is really being distant...is firm that nothing I could do or say would convince him that I've really changed so I'm going to try a different approach. I think we make these guys "lazy" by doing all the work...it's taking quite a while for methods in dbing to sink in, but the farther away I get from desparation the more clearly I seem to be thinking.
You know...we obviously weren't the best wives our our husbands would still be here, but we deserve some consideration and love ourselves. I am not going to be a doormat any longer. I don't mean I've given up, but I do think I'm making it easy on H by always letting him know how I'll be there. Think about it..he doesn't have to worry at all that there might be a risk that I would get on with my life...I think that idea (if he does have any feelings for me) gives him peace I don't have. I somewhat think to our H's...we have become a "fallback". If things don't work out in their new lives....they can always go back to us.
