M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
What does that mean? Sorry I am not familiar with the terms. You agreed on postponing the hearing, or DIMISS the hearing?
Who is "We", why? Does it mean something?
DONT'T BE AFRAID. NOTHING that can happen from now one is even close to being as hurtful as what you've been through already. You have come a long way, you are a different person, like it or not. Stay strong,we are here to back you up... Love, M
Thanks for checking up on me. Your kindness touched me deeply. I told my therapist of your call who commented on how wonderful it was to have such a support system.
Turns out that missing my medication for even a day or two can bring the symptoms of the depression crashing down at full force. I went to pick up the meds. They hadn't filled it so figured I'd go back later. Ooops.
The odd thing is.. how lousy I emotionally felt missing it a day was the same as I felt when on the same medication while married to spouse. I forget how constantly stressful and anxiety ridden my life was.
My lawyer and I decided to dismiss the hearing. Spouse had written a note outlining his intentions which proved to be satisfactory. At anytime the hearing can be put back on the docket if things go south.
The lawyers will discuss settlement options on September 5th.
When I read spouse's email, I was touched by the level of detail and explanations he gave. He even included what was the closest thing to an apology or validation I'll get.
"You may be upset with me for a number of reasons, but in this case there is no wrong doing nor any harmful intent.
For a bit I basked in the glow of what had been very good about spouse... how he would take care of me. Then the shine wore off when I realized that he more or less admitted that he had intentionally done things that were wrong and harmful. I reminded myself this is the guy who left to actively pursue another life with someone else while placing the blame solely on me.
It was nice to have a positive memory. I must always take my meds. I never realized how much my brain needs those supplemental chemical compounds. Yeouch! They are to me what insulin is to a diabetic.
