H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

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iamlost - thanks for your gentle attitude. I do want a friendship with him, I think it is vital for the children. It's nice to hear someone say that is possible.

It's a shame that he couldn't have waited until he moved out before getting a GF, it has made it harder, but probably easier for me to detach.

I do still love him, and part of me wants to be with him. However, I need to remember the lack of interest he had in me (common for SLAs apparently), and the air of deception I lived in, and the uncertainty. That's all I've got to go on really, as I can't remember the infidelity - I never knew.