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She is very insensitive and it is indeed sickening. I feel thankful that my W does not disclose what she does in her spare time with Mr. E.D. Your W doing this must make it quite a bit easier for you to push forward with the D.

Why she does it? Maybe she thinks of you as a friend and wants to seek approval. Her wrong from right circuitry is mis-wired.

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Why she does it? Maybe she thinks of you as a friend and wants to seek approval. Her wrong from right circuitry is mis-wired.

I agree with Kerry on this. She has no hard feelings towards you, she feels safe, in her mind she has nothing to be tactful about since everything is out in the open. That makes her insensitive.

I am sorry you have to go through this. You do have the choice NOT to listen to all that.
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I am so very upset right now. A few weeks ago I asked the STBX to switch weekends with me so that I could take the Labor weekend and go away on a trip that I want to do very much. Something I had been really looking forward to doing.

Well, this morning she told me that she changed her mind. Apparently Nick had made "surprise plans" for them. Now she tells me. UGH!!!!!!

I had the kids for Memorial Day, the Fourth of July and now Labor Day. I need a freaking life too.



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Can you put your foot down and tell her that you already made plans quite a while ago? Or are you needing to walk on eggshells until the D is final?

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Right now I'm still thinking I need to walk on eggshells for a few more weeks. I have too much to loose (my kids) if she changes her mind.



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Yep, my L mentioned the same thing about not stirring up a hornets nest. But, he also said that the longer we go with our current 50/50 parenting plan, the harder it would be for my W to try for full custody if she got pissed off and changed her mind.

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So, today I finished up the last of the paperwork from my lawyer. I had been putting it off for some reason. Maybe because it means "the end" or maybe I'm just lazy.

But, its done. It made me a bit sad I guess. Not as sad as a divorce should have in my opinion. Maybe I am just numb, or I just want it behind me. Or maybe I just learned that I can be happy with someone else.



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Woog,
I am sorry you are sad. I wish for you to be happy because you are a special man and you deserve it. I understand how you feel. I think we all do.
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(The official end of a marriage is much less important than the "real" end, don't you think?)


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Woog, ((()))) I,m sorry but it will get better I promise.
We all do the light hearted banter but we all know the tears behind the clown. What you are feeling is soo normal, it wouldn't be natural to feel otherwise.
" Maybe I am just numb, or I just want it behind me."
both are understandable. Be kind to yourself allow some sadness. Tears can wash away the pain and prime us for the new life that lies ahead.
Just be happy with being you first.
Take care.

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Sunshine,

You are so right. The real end of the marriage was a while ago. And it wasn't sadness for my wife so much as for my "family" and the pain this is causing my children. This morning as I was getting ready for work I noticed my daughter staring off in to space. I kissed her head and asked her what she was thinking about. Her response, "I am just kinda sad we will never have a real family vacation again Dad".



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