Too late for DB for us, #9 (was in separated)

[cw68]

I met him here. shhhh

I was taking a long break. Life has kept me sooo busy that my hours in front of the computer weren't possible. I'm also moving past this whole DB thang. My marriage is done and I'm OK with it. It's not what I wanted and I tried my best to avoid this. However, it is where we are and I don't want to be married to this man anymore. He has become somebody so different, with such different morals and ethics. I don't think it would be possible for him to involved enough to fix our problems. That's the bottom line. He doesn't want it and it couldn't work without him wanting it. He doesn't value marriage, the family and our vows. Not at least in the way we once agreed upon and that's what I need.

Now it's all about ME.

[Kalni]

You sound good. I am happy for you.
K

[ernest88]

cw68, I think we posted to each other in Newcomers. I just moved over here as my sitch has gone south, way way south..anyway I read up on parts of your sitch and see that you are moving on. It does get better, hang in there.

[cw68]

I do feel good and have most definitely turned a really big corner over the past few weeks. While I'm still ticked off at my husband's actions, I'm OK with what's going on. If I had my druthers, we would have worked us out but he didn't want that and I don't want the man he is, so it makes it easier to watch him walk away. He still broke our vows, our family and our marriage and for that I doubt I'll ever really forgive him. Yet I realize that it's time for me to move on. Moving out of our house was the best thing I ever did.

[MichelleLT]

I am glad you are doing so well!

((((((cw)))))))

Stay strong and happy!

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((((cw))))))))

You are really sounding good now! I'm sorry it turned out this way, but you gave it your best. At some point, it takes two.

[lodo]

Hey cw,

i'm right there too. Sorry it's turned out this way but doesn't it feel good to find yourself again? Amazing what we can lose in a M.

lodo

[cw68]

Yes, it does feel good. I don't know if it's because I lost that much of me during my marriage, but more that I'm looking forward to what I am going to be post-divorce. I've lost a big part of my identity -- wife and stay-at-home-Mom (well, I haven't gotten a job yet, but will soon) -- and it's exciting to see what's coming in to replace that.

I really am feeling good. Truly good. Extremely happy to be out of our home. I never really liked it that much, my husband was the one who loved the house. This house that I'm renting I love and already feel super comfortable here.

Mentally being able to date again just proves to me how far I've come, just how far down the path I am. It feels good. It's so good for my ego to have someone like me after spending ten months trying to get my own husband to like me! It's exciting and, for a change, it's all about me and not about my H, my family or my kids.

I'm happy and it's such a nice change.

[cw68]

H started dating the gal with whom he had an EA with last Fall and he's surprised that it's a problem for me. How f-ing clueless can these WAS be?!

[MichelleLT]

Very. DAM.

(((cw)))