Just catching up after a few days. Sounds like you are doing fine just slow down a little bit. Back off from any R talk unless it is in MC.
Also why are you so concerned that see admit her part in your M problems. You know what your part is and you know what her part is. That should be all that matters to you. Keep working on you and stop expecting her to do this or that. Accept that deep down she knows her part but may not want to accept it yet. We all have to deal with our past issues in our own time.
In MC bring up issues in a positive way. Do not attack and say you should have done this or should not have done that. Say I would really like you to do this or not that because .... and you fill in the blank. Non threathning is the key.
