I wonder how much of her anger is being caused because of the alcohol.
From where I stand, I too would be done DBing for any hope of getting this woman back. Keep yourself happy and D5 happy when she is with you. Let this vile woman stew in her own anger. She does not sound like a person that is going to attract a very good man anytime in the future. I like the "I'm done" attitude - you have dropped the rope and hopefully you wont think of pulling her up any time soon. Rob, you deserve so much better than her. You have grown throughout this ordeal - what has your W accomplished during this period other than to torment you?