I am here! Lurking....but still following everyone's thread and those who are new here.
Don't really have much to say. Since my last post, my XW and I have only conversed a couple of times. I called at Easter to say hello and chatted for about an hour. She went on and on regarding work but that was about it.
Celebrated what would have been our 11th anniversary with friends and ran into a friend of her's who I think guided her to the D. Single female who hates men and hasn't been in a R in at least 15 years. That is a good person to get advice from. I am sure that got back to the XW.
Haven't heard from her until late last week. Macy's called for her so I sent an email relaying the message. She responded saying thanks and if I could change some information for myself with our alma mater. Apparently they are contacting her for me. First time I had heard this. I responded that I would and asked on a whim how she was doing....testing waters....maybe hoping to start a meaningful conversation. Response was "All in all, things are fine". I didn't reply cause I really don't know what to say? Who says that?! Still don't know if she is asking for help or wants me to ask about it?
Anyway. It will be two years next month that I have been D. While I have dated several women, none measure up to her. I still think about her everyday. Hard not to but each day I think a little bit less. Know that I need to move on, but just not sure that I can totally give up. Not sure if I ever will feel that way. I did take off my ring after the D was final. Didn't think it was right to be wearing it anymore and don't need a ring to know how I feel about her. Actually funny thing, I have been "feeling" that I have had it on again recently. Not sure why!
A friend of mine who knows her says that she is unhappy and depressed. Funny how they think that life is going to be so much grander after they get rid of us.
Overall, I am doing well. Work is busy, life is busy and health is good. Lots of things to be thankful for!
Hopefully life will calm a bit and I can find some time to post on other threads. Not sure if I can offer much advice but sometimes just hearing from others is a big help!
Thanks ANM!
CIAZ M 7/97 S 5/05 D 8/06 Both 33 years old No kids
