For the Guy with Kids and a WW 8

[hopeful4her]

What would you do if your H said that he wants to get full custody of the kids?

I imagine that everyone would fight like crazy against it. In my case, the dad, roomie did all the teacher conferences, did most of the doctor appointments, had all the coorespondence from the teachers. That was what our scheduled allowed. Her job last year allowed her the flexability to do that stuff. I was stuck at work. Then when she lost her job, then all the more. An attorney told me to document that type of stuff that I did. Wasn't nearly as much as roomie did. I got filled in with every detail. As a matter of fact, I would have to remind her to tell me.

To fight in a court over the kids and prove how much better of a parent I am over her. Talk about an uphill battle. I don't doubt my abilities, its proving that I'm better suited enough to have custody is another.

And then to just have a judge choose joint custody anyway. The money that would be spent to have the outcome be what we are thinking anyway. It boggles the mind. I have looked at some cases. The circumstances would have to be pretty bad on roomies part for her to lose custody. And in Texas, affairs don't come into play.

The kids and I are going to have to make the best of what we have. They know that they will be spending time with us as equally as possible.

It all depends on how she and I work with each other. I agree with the kids having schedules and continuity. That is how we have raised them. Up until now. It will just be different.

And I plan to be asking for input, especially from D11. Not that I'm going to base my decisions on her, but I will consider her opinion, if she has any.

Even my mother, who once told me to get physical custody of the kids has changed her mind. "I've thought about it. You can't take them away from their mother. I agree with splitting the time between you and her." And believe me, she is way more bitter than I am about roomie.