Hi SH, I'm not as far along as you are (15-month mark) but I understand your feelings of disinterest towards H. It is especially difficult as you begin to notice other interesting people!

Although some on this board disagree, I do notice that the MLCer usually does apologize and/or offer regrets at some point. Most of the time, though, it is too late. The LBS has processed the situation and moved on.

I am getting into the same place that you are (I'm quite a few months behind you timeline-wise), but H did initiate D.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D