As you may recall, over a year ago I brought up the topic of how our marriage had slipped. We had numerous, very open and honest discussions of how we felt and what we felt needed to change in order for us to continue to grow as a loving couple. You said you felt pressured that any physical contact with me had to lead to sex. I backed away from my desires to touch and hold you, letting physical touch be initiated by you but returned by me in a loving way that did not lead to sex in order to give you the space you wanted. You said you felt I still had trust issues from {first wife} and that my phone calls to you during the day were just means for me to check up on you. I ceased all unecessary calls to you to again, give you the space you wanted...to show trust in you.
I spoke of the importance to me of intimacy, that is was more than just sex. Intimacy is what makes me feel validated, loved, of some importance. Without intimacy and the rejection of intimacy, leaves me feeling alone and unwanted. That was a year ago and nothing has changed. The last few months, I've grown tired of trying to 'right' things by myself with little to no effort from you. Am I willing to continue to put forth 100% effort on our marriage? That depends, are you? If you are unable to answer that question, then we are through, because I will not go this alone any longer, it won't work. I'm not going to pressure you into an immediate answer, but it's been a year since this was first brought up. I've set a time limit in my head of when I will know the answer....I will not be in this position a year from now. I WILL continue to seek the emotional intimacy and connection that the physical act of sex provides to me and I hope that it will be with you.
