Remind yourself that your WAS is hurting, and they have applied the OP to their hurt like a band aid. But in fact, the OP is a really lousy band aid - they don't actually help the WAS heal, because the source of their pain is deep inside. The OP just temporarily covers up the hurt so your spouse can pretend this is helping.
Eventually the OP will get all gunky and smelly and black around the edges and start to peel away, and your spouse will wonder why in the world they ever thought this was a good way to make themselves feel better.
In the meantime, don't worry about the OP - they are insignificant. YOU are the one that matters.
Look at Dos Trolls...she was an icky, black, curling at the edges band aid but H still thought that would fix it and now look at it...EEEEEeeeeewwwwww
Rob is right, you are all that matters. Its hard to accept that its not about them, because we as LBS spend a lot of time wondering about them, what made them the one? Its not about them being the one, they were simply there. Not Ms./Mr. Right, but Ms./Mr. Rightnow. Its about our S and their inability to face or fix whatever the real problem was/is and that is the frustrating and sad part. (((hugs)))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
