What do you find is helping you get your children through the divorce?
Prayers, prayers, prayers. God shook my Comfy fence for a reason, so I make sure He knows I hear him.
I find that open communication helps the most in my case with my son(9 years old) and my daughter(7 years old)
Our Feelings journal has been a God send to us.
I call in the troops. My parents, my brothers, my sister, my frieneds.
I call in the troops when I see that they have been down, and maybe need someone else to talk to besides me.
My family and I, with help of others in our community have helped set up a divorce care group in my kids school.
They go to a therapist, and their school counselor. Their teachers, and principal know I am divorced, well they have been spoken to, before the actual divorce.
They also have an eye on things.
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Do you have another person involved with you or with your ex.....
Do you mean if I am in an R? No I am not, and I have been a few dates, but no man has ever met my children. They won't for a very long time either. I am focused on their well being for now. My children are not ready for that. Their father has shoved the GF down their throats, and they don't like her at all.
So that is another set of issues, b/c we do not co parent very well. So I have to be mom and dad.
What is not working with this, is that My kids are upset and jealous. The X spends more time with her 3 children than with our kids.
They get upset with him, they have told him they don't want to go to her house, or spend time with her, but he just buys them something new and says Oh I bought you a great surprise but you have to go to Susan's house to see it.
Soo, I think they are used to the manipulation. They sort of just wait for it.
But they adore him, no matter what. Their face lights up when he beeps that horn in a way that he does not even deserve most of the time.
But, I am happy they do love him that much. That is their papi. One day he may snap out of the selfishness and make his children beyond happy.
I pray for their relationship.
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