It's tough to keep it out of the "parent/child" level, I know... especially when they act like a child by being pouty
I think i'm doing pretty well with the not treating him like a child thing. He's just not used to me telling him what i need him to do. Normally i'm really polite and just ask. As much as i wanted his help, i never expected it. I think that now that i'm leaving out the "will you" or "can you" it's helping me get him to help.
I'm being cautious and not getting my hopes up because there have been times where he has helped for a few weeks before and then he just quits and get frustrated, but so far so good.
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Not only does it make him feel better about him doing stuff for you over the last few days... but good sex, makes a husband feel more like doing more things for you in the near future.
Now, for me, not much has changed in the attraction/sex department, but i have gotten to the point where i can enjoy the sex itself once we get into it, so it sucks for me too when he's being an a$$ and doesn't get any...
and seriously, it was just last night we didn't, poor baby. Too bad for him that he doesn't get to be a jerk and call names and have an attitude and get sex too.
Here's my thinking on the sex as a reward thing... it's not so much a reward, but it is something he won't get when he's being a jerk and everytime he asks or makes a joke about it, that's exactly what i'll tell him. I probably won't be really good at keeping to that, but hopefully good enough that he'll think about what he says before he says it more often than not if he wants to "get some" hehe... no more "i have a headache" or "am tired"... it's "you were mean and said hurtful things, so i don't feel like being intimate with you right now."
Thanks Dom! ann
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