thats the point..
you have said everything you can on this...he is in some sort of self destruct mode....
if you can just be a loving place for him to know is safe...it will create strength in you and he will feel it.

at the same time- you must protect yourself....it becomes a bit of the victim mentality after a while..yes it is hard and sad and horrible that he has this...but it is not an excuse..i learned that with my RA. The hard way.

take care of you ;\)

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