"I am finding out that the L stuff is less than comforting and and impacting my anxiety level but dealing with it and keeping a PMA. I have the tough little cookie in town, my W has the daughter of the bulldog. Each are fighting for the most right now. Her L will get a surprise when she sees our response."
It will happen.. just going to the office brings up stuff.. I know. Just keep in mind... its not a fight to the death.. and both of you are going to come out of this with some more hurt feelings. It's that fine line of Life.. keep your head about you.. and try to do what is best. Don't let the Emotion drive.. as hard as that will be.
"I am with verizon and they told me that they will only release the content of the text via a subpeona. It's on the way. Txts between W and OW should make for either very boring or juicy reading for me and the L. Should also corroborate my notes about her not being around for the past 40 days."
I hope there is something useful in it.. One of the things my L was going to use was some of the texts to.. make her case against wife.. I wasn't so sure I wanted to prove she was a bad person.. I just wanted to make sure I was protected. Proving she is having a relationship.. whatever it may be.. can benefit you.. at the same time it has the side effect of pointing a finger and saying.. see I knew you were bad. We all make bad choices.. someone pointing them out.. in public.. can lead to a lot of hurt and resentment. A lot of people take the hard line with this stuff.. just make sure whatever you do.. you are happy with it.
"What's interesting is everytime she meets with L, she changes her mind and continues to move forward with what L says. Of course, L most likely does not know entire story and will definitely be taken by surprise. Also, I am learning the hard way that WAWs do not hear what LBS say. Regret is something I am not struggling with as I am keeping my focus on the kids and have been since the sitch began, along with focusing on changing me for the positive. I do not regret anything up to this point, that my L will be doing to give me a fighting chance at custody. I also don't regret securing the only people in our town (all of our family are out of state) that can speak to our parenting abilities (they will be needed if a home evaluation takes place - no family please as they are biased). L said you are now thinking correctly. W will only have OW to speak to parenting ability. Not good."
I like the tone of that post there.. I think you are understanding what I am saying about what to do. I am a "softee" when it comes to this stuff.. other people may disagree.
"I have done this she is just not listening."
Look as long as you are being honest.. and keeping her as informed as you can.. who's fault is it if she gets "run over"? There will come a time down the road.. when she is thinking more clearly.. then when she looks back.. what will she see? Just because she does not hear you now.. does not mean you should not "Act as if".
"L said notes are gold."
I knew that.
I think you are walking tall in a hard place.. just keep your head up.. and think as clearly as you can.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
