The re-writing of history seems to be a very common thread among MLCers. I used to hear that things were so good my W was scared something bad was going to happen. I received many many cards that said "what a wonderful husband I was"

Then the bomb dropped. Suddenly it was "the last 6 years were shite". Then it was the "last 12 years". Yesterday on the phone I heard " This was coming for a long time". When I asked "how long", I got no answer.

FWIW, we had a wonderful fun filled vacation alittle over a year ago. We had a very nice Christmas '07, sang with eachother on New Years and had a blast. Jan 08 birthdays were great. Feb 08 it was obvious something was wrong. By March 08 my W was gone.

MLCers re-write history I think to assuage their guilt and justify their actions. They don't call it Oz for nothing :-)

Hang in there....for yourself if nothing else.

Me- 47
W- 45
Married 22 years
Together 30 years
No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat
2005 - 2007 W in MLT
1/08 - Crisis hits
3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA
4/08 W files for divorce
8/08 Divorce final