The road goes ever on...

[jon2911]

There doesn't seem to be much in common there does there? However...maybe there is. You like the friends/community aspect right? I'm sure she likes hanging out with her friends. You like playing music right? I'm sure she likes listening to music, just probably not religious stuff. Play on the similarities, not the differences.

Well, music in general. Her family is incredibly business and money-focused. Musicians are, naturally, different. When a musician starts doing it solely for the money, the art really suffers. So, even the music she listens to is all the pop radio stuff, which musicians usually hate. She can't stand U2, of course I really need to start looking for similarities like you say, because it's not all black and white like she thinks.

My C today had a great tip. He said "wow, she really has no faults, does she?" (WAS's never do, right?) But he pointed out that even the negative ways she's acting are also positives. The judgmental attitude keeping us apart, another way to look at it is that she can't stand hypocrites, which is very good. She wants to make absolutely sure I'm not like that any more, and I need to complement her on that somehow.