2 steps forward, 3 back

[cat03]

oh honey, deep breath now IN....OUT.............
First of all, why dont' you want to take anti-d? what is so wrong about them? you sound like you could really need some right now, no reason not to take them.
Second of all: you do NOT need him to "complete" you, you do not need him to survive or live a happy life. Someone posted here that the spouse coming back should be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself, YOU are the cake hon, you don't need him, the sooner you accept this the better.

The feelings of jelousy are normal, I totally understand you, but... do not let it consume you, this is what he has chosen, he's ceased to be the man you married. You already know they sleep together, there is no need to "trick" him into admitting it, he is with her, by trying to trap him into saying it you come out as a hounding desperate woman, keep your dignity honey, I know you hurt, but realize you are not achieving anything positive.

And the thing about dropping/picking kids is getting too dramatic, the kids are the ones suffering seeing your/his reaction/actions, please stick to a way in which it is acceptable to both of you, hopefully reducing the amount of chances of seeing her.
About his bday, babe, sounds like he'd feel awkward celebrating it w/you, drop it, don't let it be yet another awkward sitch for you/kids.

I said I didn't like this GF doing things to D8.

what do you mean?

Kept saying I could move out and he would move in and take care of things.

yea right, how nice of him. Do consult a L pronto, just in case, I know it's the last thing you want to do, but for goodness sake, do it, you dont' need to retain one, just go in with the facts (how much $ you/him make, assets, 401k, value of house etc) and learn your rights and what you should ask for that is reasonable.

I know this is hard, but please, for you and the kids' sake, know that you will be ok, know that no matter what happens you can and will have a good happy life. My prayers your way)))