Well my first step to reading her "subtle" communications will be to have a little more light in the bedroom instead of the total darkness that she insists on. We do occasionally do something in daylight but the operative word is occasionally.
I know my post had that "missing the magic" undertone. This goes back to your old "DQ's sex blog" post about the only easy way for true success is for HD's to marry HD's and LD's to marry LD's. Otherwise it's the HD struggling to get the LD to discover what comes naturally for the HD and just getting frustrated because the HD doesn't understand the LD.
I have been with HD's remember? That's what the A's were all about (and have had HD girl friends before my M also). There was no coaxing any talk out of them, we would plainly tell each other what we wanted, talk dirty, whisper fantasies. No inhibitions or embarrassment, just great communication making for great sex.
Should I just add a paragraph about good communication in and out of the bedroom in my letter to my wife? I would love to help her find her voice and tell me plainly what she likes and how to improve things.
