I agree that it is bordering on stalking. And, yes I see the guilt working on her, but she has been handling those feelings well and her actions have been stellar. The problem is that he has not done anything overtly threatening. I am kind of hoping that I will be there when he comes over and he will get mad and hit me or something like that. But I think more realistically his behavior will settle down and he will fade away.
There is no "borderline".
gforce, this IS stalking and your wife should tell OM that if he shows up or contacts her in any way, that she will call the cops.
