Ken's situation - Live-in WAW

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Yeah Mike. I kept my cool. No accusing going on in either direction. I even told her I don't want to create more static between us and she said the conversation we had didn't do that - which is good.

Alot of neutral stuff during the whole. Not good, not bad. Neutral is always better than bad.

I don't think I pushed or pressured. She basically brought the stuff up and I managed to identify certain topics which never go well and told her we need to talk about that kind of stuff in MC. And this is a 180 for me. Usually I'm game to talk about anything without regard for if it's going to get messy or not.

So just the fact that I let stuff go that was ripe for arguing is a big change for me.

One other thing which was pretty interesting. My wife told me she didn't need to know about what I worked on in therapy. She said, "It's not that I don't care, it's that I don't have room for it. I feel like if I add anything else I'll just go over the edge." I then said, "I don't need to share that stuff with you. I don't need to tell you my issues." And she got this funny look on her face. It reminded me of the cartoons when the characters jaw drops down to the floor.

I almost get the feeling that the detached part of me was coming through that comment and it took her by surprise.

I also feel she is hiding behind my issues. But that stuff should come out in MC.

Another thing I did was call her on some of her re-writing that past few weeks. She mentioned again how the 'deep conversations' we were having were hard on her. Then I reminded her that we haven't had one of those conversations in over a month.(I started on Lexapro). It's so rediculous how she keeps re-writing what's going on. There were more examples of her re-writing the truth. Another thing that pisses me off.

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