losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[LosingSunshine]

Mike, do not at all. I do really appreciate her advice as well as everyone else's. Her insight has been truly helpful over the past month or so.

Update. So, my W called her L this morning and left a message regarding what we had talked about last night, and had been discussing regarding the 50/50 custody and residency. Well, L calls back and says she won't call my L and then pretty much convinced my W that I am being manipulative, don't want to pay C/S and that 50/50 is not best for their kids given their age. I tried talking some sense into her and we will be discussing things tonight but, basically, as my L said, it's GAME ON.

The response is being drafted that is basically going to fire a flare across the bow saying, nope...I have been the primary caregiver, according to the statute that governs temporary custodianship and we have proof! Now, we have a good idea that her L has no idea what has been going on as my L has never seen any client of her L act like this. If anything, she would have been advised to stay home, get me into a confrontation so a PO could be issued. Ugh!

Also, her texts are being subpeonaed (subpeona being drafted right now and will be faxed today) - helps that her phone was under my name up through 7/10. Heck, from the sounds of it, they are going to subpeona the messages after 7/10. And this is just the start of the business end. Gripes!

Also, if she does take the kids on Saturday and not return them as she says, we will file an emergency motion on Monday. The fun begins and she has no understanding of the legal process. Heck, she even asked me what will happen during the motion hearing on 8/14 and I said that the judge will look at the facts, look at the law governing temporary custodianship and issue a ruling unless we agree otherwise. She didn't read the f'ing papers she had issued to me.

I am really miffed right now. She thinks I am being manipulative because I am trying to look after what I believe is best for the kids.

Fighting for my time with my kids and searching for the inner strength and grace from God to keep them the central focus of every decision that will be made in the coming weeks.

In anycase, at least I have a few hours to decompress before we start reviewing the state guidelines regarding custody and take a ride to see her new place. Not only do I need to do my very best DB'ing tonight, but I also need to figure out how to get her to believe I am not being manipulative.