Cinco, I think it is perfect. Really. You laid out the time line of the past for her in writing so that she is faced with remembering that she has let you down.
She will likely get angry at first...try to be very zen during your discussion, even if she flips out. Just let her have her emotional outburst. It will just be in response to the fear that she may lose you. But when she calms down, if she sees you have remained calm, she will realize "oh wow, I better listen, he seems serious".
Did you also read NTE's letter on his thread? I think the both of you should give each other feed back, it will help you both.
I'm rooting for you...it is going to be a difficult conversation...but if it works out as you hope, you will reap rewards like you never knew possible. Remember that myself and Ali used to be in your wife's shoes! Never forget that. There is always hope.
