Well just a little update here. Things have been going GREAT between my W and I. We went away without the kids for the first time in years this last weekend. We really needed this. Should have been doing it for a long time now. The last few weeks have been a sort of rollercoaster ride for me(well us) as expected but we've both done well. I still truly feel that she is being honest with me now. This weekend the topic of the A did come up a few times but I changed the subject quickly as I could see it hurt her to think about what she had done to me, to us. I told her that I know if she had found happiness elsewhere and were not remorseful about what she had done, she wouldn't have gone away with me. And also that if I wasn't willing to get beyond it and forgive her that I wouldn't be there either. We laid on the beach, we went out for a not-so-romantic dinner at a calabash seafood restaurant, then stayed out VERY late dancing at a local club. The only complaint that I had or that she had about the whole weekend was that it was too short. Her first thoughts yesterday as we were driving back to reality were about when and where we could go on our next trip!