BTW, that was the original reason for my post. Figuring out what would be best for the kids. Letting them be with mom? Fighting for custody with me? Equal sharing?
I'm getting what I want. I've prayed and prayed on it and I hope it is what is best for the girlies.
H4H,
That's an INTENSELY personal decision, and one we've all had to think long and hard about. Personally, I came to the conclusion that my wife's wayward lifestyle (meeting up with OM in parking lots, staying out late, lying repeatedly, not feeding the kids because she was out with OM doing god-knows-what, avoiding church, etc.) was NOT an environment in which I wanted my children growing up, so I went for full custody. I don't believe that the "fogged out" state of mind that people involved in active affairs are in is conducive to good parenting. Once they end their affair, go through withdrawal, and get some good counseling, I think they can once again be the kind of parent they were before, but it's a 6-12 month process.
