Leap of Faith on the Lake Erie Shore

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UH oh....is that being master of your domain? I think not!!!! Can I get a ruling?

Think about this, though. Until our W's made a big fuss, moved out, talked about D, etc, we were happy. We weren't nec. relying on them....but it became that because we don't appreciate what we have until we can't have it. That turns up the volume on our NEED to have them around. In some ways, I believe people get married because they don't want to be alone. So, everyone, in some sense, needs that other person.

Like I said, the volume is on max now because you want her and can't have her. I think it would be healthy to think of things in the context of "as if." That takes away our need to do stupid things like text or email when we freak out about something little.

We need to step up the game, Neil. How are we going to be better at this if these little things pull us down? We are mentally stopping ourselves from doing this. I never thought I could say this because I thought you were much farther on the road to recovery than me, but look at my post today on my sitch. I am able to not talk to her about what I wrote because I'm making the decision to make a stand against these weak little things that kept pulling me down. You need to do the same and STICK TO IT.