Originally Posted By: MichelleLT

However, you also need to start brainstorming a little. How can you compromise about the church stuff? How can you accomodate her point of view and still do the things you want to do?

Obviously a start would be to not discuss religion with her or send her religious e-mails/texts/etc. Another would be to never say you pray for her (I can relate to her with that one, I really don't like it when people say that even though I am Christian, but I usually just nod and smile and remind myself that they are just being nice).

What about her point of view on religion can you agree with? What can you validate? What can you empathize with? If you can make her feel heard and understood, she will probably be more flexible as well.

The weekend sounds like a great plan! I LOVE ceviche although I can't have the shrimp kind as I am allergic. Still, GOOD stuff!


Good points, I've stayed away from any religious stuff. FIL is terrible about "verse of the day" crap e-mails, which always send a message. I did say "praying for you", but only once, and got reprimanded...

I like what you say about brainstorming compromises. She doesn't seem to be in a compromising mood, but we haven't talked about this stuff for a while. It's good to have communication back again, but strange. I kinda liked doing my own thing \:\)

W just texted "Victory!". We finally got the health insurance to pay out.


Me: 30
W: 28
T 8, M 6
S: 7-27-2007
W filed (again) 3-2011
Served 8-2011
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