You know, I find myself thinking the exact same things because, over time, through snooping and my W telling me additional information, there were many things left out of our original "breakthrough." Because of these lies/incomplete information, I suspect that other stuff has transpired that she will never tell me about. If there is and she isn't telling me, then I fully suspect that it's for the same reasons your W hasn't told you--they don't want to hurt us with even more bad news because they truly want things to move forward and work out.
So, where does that leave us, Dean? Really, it doesn't matter what they tell us, we will question its authenticity, right? We will wonder if it's ALL of the information. I guess, for us to move forward, we have to settle for the information they have given us knowing that they fully regret their actions and want to make things work. What more can we really do? For us to move on, we have to resolves ourselves to something, right? If we don't, our marriages will ultimately fail.
Quote: keep thinking that at any time she could be lying to me and doing something to compromise our M again. Still she is here, she is working, and she is telling me she loves me. Which are all things that didn't happend during the affair.
I think the last sentence here says it all... Deep down you KNOW she's not doing anything to compromise your situation because she's behaving in a way that shows YOU she cares.
