If you were to do anything, give up anything, you would make yourself co-dependent. The new R must be built on two centered and whole individuals choosing to have the R.

However, you also need to start brainstorming a little. How can you compromise about the church stuff? How can you accomodate her point of view and still do the things you want to do?

Obviously a start would be to not discuss religion with her or send her religious e-mails/texts/etc. Another would be to never say you pray for her (I can relate to her with that one, I really don't like it when people say that even though I am Christian, but I usually just nod and smile and remind myself that they are just being nice).

What about her point of view on religion can you agree with? What can you validate? What can you empathize with? If you can make her feel heard and understood, she will probably be more flexible as well.

The weekend sounds like a great plan! I LOVE ceviche although I can't have the shrimp kind as I am allergic. Still, GOOD stuff!

Michelle - Proud DR Rockette
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