I dont know what the future holds for any of us - i am still trying to get through this whilst trying to remain sain - for me to say i am going to do this and that with some body else is a joke - do you not think life is crap enough at the moment without making it more complicated
I think he means exactly what it says on the tin. He is finding this hard, he feels incredibly guilty and bad about what he is putting you and the kids through. My H felt very guilty too. I could have turned round and told him it was OK, I didn't mind but I didn't as I DID mind. Instead I told him that I was sorry he felt like that, but he would have to find a way to resolve his guilt himself.
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Jen - in your sitch, was there ever a time that you weren't sure about your feelings towards H? I just don't know how I feel. If H said today he wanted me back, i'm not sure i would want him, certainly not what we had anyway.
Very much so. As you know, my H recomitted, roughly around the end of 2006. At which time I got myself into IC as I could just not cope with it all. 2007 - well, I had H back but some of the problems were still there (him being a little on the lazy side for one). Anyway, won't bore you with the details but in the main yes I wanted my H back, but on terms that were agreeable to us BOTH. He had had his own way for a loooooong time, he had to realise that we had to work together or it wasn't going to work.
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Generally i feel much better in myself, I am happier with things, H is pulling his weight now with the business and boys, i have more free time, i'm not so stressed or tired and i get time to be myself. I went to a bar on FRiday night with a live band, now 6 months ago i would have hated every single minute of it, now i can't wait to go again..i'm enjoying myself.
Excellent stuff! Life is improving. OK, may not be all you wanted but it's still good.
Take care and "speak" soon
JJ x
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
