Divorce and Children

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With all that said, I still think my kids are only getting second-best. The best outcome in any sitch would be for both adults to buckle down and do the work required to save the M. M is the best place to raise kids; its not fair to the kids for either adult to put selfish needs above theirs, and that is really what happens here. But as frustrating as it is, some divorces cannot be stopped. So we take that second-best start and work twice as hard to bring it back up to even the playing field.



Donna, I hear you. This is my struggle too.

It wrenches my heart. My ex was a bit abusive. He's not a nice guy. My oldest lived with him a year, but mostly he checked out (sends cards and stuff, fought for custody, blah blah blah)
So it's a struggle.


Maybe you and others sharing things that work.....will help folks....maybe I'll even pick up some tips.




There are things I wish I hadn't done:

I wish I hadn't dated so soon after my divorce. I would do that differently.

I would not have let them meet anyone I dated unless I was serious with them. (I wasn't remotely a tramp....but I did bring who I was dating around them. )

I was just sooooooooooo tired a lot. And striving to keep financially afloat. I wouldn't have put THAT much energy into it again (I went back to school FT and had to work part time jobs to keep it together.) I would have relaxed with THEM more.



So....on a more positive note.... What are YOU doing? How are you trying to make things great for your kids?