You want someone to make you happy & keep you there, which is an impossible feat, you are looking for that special feeling that you get from a loving father that really loves, honor & respects his daughter. (Or you are a "love feeling junkie" who must have that constant dose of the endorphin rush from feeling in love, which will lead to the same ending)
(Imagine being the sole person responsible for someone's happiness, forever, scary huh, yet you expect your husband to do this?)
This was or is lacking in your relationship with your father. Since you placed your husband in that role & he was unable to fulfill that role. Because he couldn't do the job, (an impossible one I might add) you are done with him because in your mind he is lacking & was not able to fill that void. So now you are leaving him to find a person to fill that void. The sad part is you are the only person, who can fill that void, and instead of you finding out what it is & how you got the void, you are running away from what has happen to you when you were a child. That anger you have about your life you are now projecting upon your husband & allowing yourself to blame him as the sole reason for your unhappiness.
Not realizing your actions if you continue to this course you will leave a wave of broken hearts & this happiness you are looking for will never be found
Most women who have father issues (when they get married) expect their husband to fulfill the emptiness that was left vacant by a troubled past w/ their father.
What you want to hear is this "you tried, your husband wasn't able to fulfill you needs (or doesn't love you)" so move on find someone who or OM is your true soul mate, end your inept marriage and move on to greener pastures!
Life doesn't work like that; this is the time you need to find Lost3031 so you can become Found3031 & then relationship will become easier, also if you stay married (which is entirely up to you) you must remember this whole time w/ your husband & that he didn't quit, so if he hits MLC or whatever issues he has he will need you to be strong & not give up on him, humans are flawed & emotional from the moment we were created we have always been making bad decisions, from Adam & Eve (the fruit of knowledge) to Our situation in Iraq
If you are not happy with yourself no one else could be happy with you either
The happiness we are all searching for is within our selves
Last edited by alexjadams; 07/29/0802:01 PM.
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
