Completely and utterly devastated--how to cope

[Jen_Jam]

Does anyone have any ideas how to make sure that someone can see you as a source of happiness even when you weren't in the past?

Yes. Be attractive. Be light and happy. People are attracted to those who are happy, fun to be around, people see others having a good time and they want to be part of that.

So - to attract someone, work on you. (sorry if I sound like a broken record here). H wants his space, you've given him that. Now your focus is purely on you.