Pick that butt back up and get into PMA!!! You did good by making a nice comment. Her lack of reaction probably came from her mind being on something else. Rememeber, she is going through pain and agony, too.
Think of it this way, too. You get to see your W all the time. Can you imagine how hard it would be to make changes for yourself, hoping your W will see them and you only get 1 time a week with that? You've got the chance to do things a little but at a time every day. You know you can make the most of it, so be happy you have that.
I'm up for the goal thing. Only problem is that I suck at making goals. The one I've made for myself was to stop bringing up the R like always and validate. I've done OK so far, but this, to me, is an on-going goal that I don't think has an end. Therefor, it's kind of immeasurable.
Neil....you got it today. You'll be fine. DO something with your abilities, I believe in you.
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009